One of, if not THE trickiest of spiritual seeking situations is this: We believe we are in relationship with and communicating with God--with Jesus--when all we are doing is interacting with a self-stylized CONCEPT (pretend character) we have concocted in our own mind, PRESUMING it to be actual God.
The scariest, most dangerous development in this is when it becomes clear that we are indeed interacting with a real, other-than-self/imagination entity. He/It moves in our life, makes things happen, shows up, obviously responds, and we are so eager to believe it is really God and good that we uncritically accept that it must be God--yet it oftentimes is indeed an objectively "other" entity, but one from the dark side masquerading as God. This happens far more frequently than most realize. Pastors, teachers, gurus, spiritual leaders, mentors etc., often assume they are in contact with God, with Good . . . because they get action, power, abilities, "insight" from whoever they are "spiritually" imploring or listening to, and their ego is such that they dare not believe it could be from the dark side--but the fruit of their spiritual life will inevitably reveal what is actually going on.
I think this could be one of--if not THE--most common spiritual errors that many, many make.
Or, they have an idea in their mind of who Jesus is, what He is like, what He does or doesn't do . . . and this is the god they serve, devised in their own imagination, which may work for a time, but invariably disappoints. If the seeker is not truly interested in the Truth, but more interested in self-fulfillment and self promotion (which we ALL "naturally" are) then they will doggedly refuse to see that they have led themselves or allowed themselves to be led down a dark and delusional path.
What usually happens is that before we want THE TRUTH . . . we want to be SELF fulfilled and we imagine a God who is going to help us with our wishes. We want Him to be a genie. We want to pray and ask and desire and dream of what WE want fulfilled . . . but then, when it doesn't happen according to our imagination, we become indignant. This is where many who claimed being "believers" or real "spiritual seekers" end up "leaving" "the faith"--to become agnostic or atheist or militantly ANTI-religion/belief/church/God etc. They feel as though they have been deceived by God, when really, all that has happened is that the real God has not been subjugated to their self-fulfillment dreams and wishes and desires.
Many who claim to seek God in Truth are only seeking some device or possession or trick or means that will give them what they want. They never go further to the point of true humility and seeking where the heart and mind seek WHAT GOD WANTS. "God wants me to be happy" is their presumption, and while this is ultimately true, it may not be true in the temporary, mortal situation.
By "happy" I mean comfortable, successful, self-fulfilled, physical healthy etc. In fact, God may have a totally different purpose for your life. He may intend that you suffer in various ways and remain UN-fulfilled personally during this mortal run. Indeed, that is all the more likely and generally to be expected of those who claim to "take up the cross" with Christ. He Himself admonished not to expect much more than trouble, suffering and persecution in this world should you truly follow Him. . . .
One of the greatest, mostly helpful things to finally grasp and accept and internalize (gladly) is: It's not about you. It's about God.
This is easy to say and lay claim to believing; but it is not so easy to actually, deeply, truly, gladly, with praise and celebration accept. Yet that is precisely the attitude and purpose we will find ourselves ultimately having in Heaven, forever. Glimpses of this reality have been offered us in His Word, so we can trust it is so.
Do you really believe in and follow God--Jesus? Or are you following and believing in an idea of Him that you've concocted to fulfill your personal self? Figuring this out once and for all is a gateway to peace, clarity, power, healing, joy, and excited expectation to one day be in His presence.